Real Life part 6

[SDFoundGirl]

I wonder if on some level you are feeling bad for him...that if he doesn't handle his business by the move out date, you will do EXACTLY what he did to you.

The most loving, kind thing you can do for this man is hold your boundary. It sounds like others have cleaned up after him and handled his business for him so he never had to grow up. Letting him suffer the consequences of his actions is the kindest thing you can do for him, because it gives him the opportunity to grow.

I know you don't want or need the drama, but you can only respond to the situation in front of you. When you buy a house, if the people you are buying it from aren't on by the date you agreed upon, they have to pay you a daily rental fee. H and I got paid money from the condo we purchased because of that. To her credit, she let us know in advance, but she also paid us the money.

This is business. Try not to worry about what H might do; the future hasn't happened yet, and he might surprise you. If not, well, you have a plan. Call the police and let them handle it.

You have become a strong, strong woman. Good things are in your future!

BTW, there's an old poster who had a similar sitch to yours who shows up in Surviving from time to time named Dana...her screen name is Galing. You might check in on her if you are looking for someone about a year or so past all of this. Last time I heard, she was the life of the party and happy as can be.

SD