Thanks Mockers~!! Very blah day today, getting impatient and self rightious about myself and my being the one to make concessions and deal with H's bad behavior etc. So, PMA flatlining today. H will not hear about it though! Friday night H went out with guys from work and I got a major flashback to all the crap I used to deal with on Fridays. I was very shaky and upset- so I mowed the grass to calm myself. H called me about 5 times to chek on me- I told him I was very anxious and worried. This helped tremendously. Saturday we had a really good day, and went to the gambling boats- We actually won !! And had lots of fun. H said he thought he was starting to feel OK! And was smiling! I told him that was really good and he looked happier. Not sure how to respond without pressure on him. Earlier in the week he said he had strong conflicting emotions: I thought oh no! the OW again! but I think he meant to stay or not to stay. Sometimes he missed me and other times he needed to get space. If he can just do this without staying at his sister's then we could solve this a different and more convenient way. Like taking a walk instead of driving downtown ... H might get a new job! I am very excited! Different building less stress and new start AND a promotion! Hope it works for us. That is about it. I ran 10 miles yesterday to prepare for a 13 mile race in Sept. I was very happy with myself for doing it and felt good most all day! That is about it. H asked me to look at an Enneagram-his C gave him homework to rank his top 3 and he want mine too. Guess I have some reading to do tonight! BTW, anyone hear of this before? 7 personality types that help you see the " dark side" of you and your spouse. ?? More of SIL voodoo.... Shay