Hummmmm.... maybe you should take a stealth approach. Just get a hold of a few things you really want and don't tell her.
When it comes down to it it's mostly just "stuff." Who wants a lot of "stuff" anyway? With the important things, like photos of the kids, you can stash a few of those away when she's not looking and you "don't know where they went... probably accidentally in the trash..."
And then let her have everything else. It will only be bad memories for you. Start NEW! And anything valuable, well take the value out of alimony. I know when my husband and I were going through this whole thing I had pages and pages of junk that we had to value out. It really seemed ridiculous how it had every little thing (might as well have been counting out paper clips!). Anyhow, most of it I didn't want and I was prepared to make extra photo albums for my H so he'd have copies of everything. I even took old video tapes to one those copier places and had extras made for my H so we'd each have one. If you guys are fighting over silly stuff like that just go get copies made quick, don't tell your W and let her keep the originals.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
