I am getting ready to go to the gym and take my frsrations out on the weights, and planned a full day of paintball for sunday where I plan to punish those who stand in my way!!! Hopefully all this will help some of the pain!
Hi Ted, All these activities sound great. That reminds me of a very funny story which occurred years ago in one of the only times that I played paintball. I promise I will share it another time soon. It is incredibly late for me and I really need the sleep. More automobile repair saga tomorrow for me. Be strong with Christ.
Hi Ted I think if calling to tell her that you want a divorce is too extreme (180) for you, then I wouldn't pick up the phone or text or email the whole time she is in California. If you are SURE it's an OM.
Tink P.S. I just started a new post here Hi Guys, here is my thread. Thanks, Tink
Hey Ted, just reading a few of your posts. Good advice from others here...don't contact her...it'll be a waste of YOUR time. If she is heading full steam towards a D...you can't do anything to stop it. Hurting yourself...playing the victim....makes it all the more while why she wants out of the M. If there is another person....and unfortunately (after being on the boards here awhile) there more than likely is.....you have to be the strong one and SHOW her that she is going to missing out on the greatest thing in her life....YOU!
It may look all good to her now...with the other person...but guess what? His true colors are going to show and all she will be able to do is kick herself in the butt and then from there.....it's all up to you.....should she stay or should she go.
Hey everyone thanks for the posts!! Today I am in a whacky mood, and this is supposed to be the day the W goes and talk to the all mighty L!!! Who give a s$%t I don't have time to worry about that now. I am not going to call, text, e-mail, blow smoke signals...NOTHING!!! If this is what she wants she can bring the pain, I have made plans for a life with her or without her!
For now I look at it as I am widowed and have my kids to worry about, she can go play in her fantasy world all she wants but as FA siad it will all come crashing down eventually, question is will I be there to catch her. I might be there but I might let her bounce of the concrete to really jolt her obscured mind!!
Tomorrow I have work and then I hear lots of Bud lights calling my name...woohoo, gonna have fun with the boys, we are going tubing and that shall be FUN...lots of bare naked ladies to gaze upon!!
For now I look at it as I am widowed and have my kids to worry about, she can go play in her fantasy world all she wants but as FA siad it will all come crashing down eventually, question is will I be there to catch her. Ted
I was thinking about you yesterday eve while I was taking the train to DF's...
My thought was that all her playing is only working for her in the construct of you in the picture. You are the failsafe that she knows is there, in other words her fantasy world only exists as a counterpoint to you.
When she fears that you will disappear she freaks out because without your steadiness, reliability, one-woman love, value of her and foundation of a real life; what she is doing becomes pathetic and desperate.
Hopefully one day she will realize what she is doing is pathetic even the FIL says what is going on is pathetic. Plus what a great example to set for the kids! Hopefully D15 has more common sense than mommy dearest, I think she does she has a good head on her shoulders...although women do work in mysterious ways
