I don't know what my next goal is... never thought I get this far, honestly.
I did not sleep last night. I kept replaying his email in my head. Stupid chatter going on, and it just was absolutely excruciatingly hard not to get emotionally entangled, or angry, etc. But, I did pull out things specific from his email that I know needed to be addressed, ie meaning, I took ownership of somethings that I can see how it affectrd him, and apologized, validated him, etc. I did not know the extent to which he was so angry or what about. I don't agree with everything, but I didn't tell him that, just the parts that were big issues. I also thanked him for being open and honest with me. It's a first in a long long time. I wish he would have been this open with me DURING our relationship, that's for sure... but hey, live and learn. Moving forward. I've got better tools to use now.
My next goal I guess is to get as much of his pent up issues out in the open and vented, validated, etc... part of which he has just done. I need to work toward getting him into a comfort zone in talking with me. That means a lot of just listening on my part, and 'taking it'... ugh. This will be hard. I'd like to have a slow and steady process of dialog. But that might be reaching right now. I think I'll have to sit back just a little longer. Patiences....
