The feeling is the same from the male prospective as well, and I understand totally what you mean. Just think of this, in a moment of weakness you do something. The way karma works it will be that week that your H is ready to work on things. I am not saying that any one would fault you for it but I know you would. You have made it through all this crap and you would not want to go through all this pain and have it not workout because of something you did. I am not so concerned with how your H would feel I am concerned with how you would feel or me in the same situation.
What you are doing by hanging in on your marriage is extremely honorable and probably above and beyond what a lot of people would do. (Thus the 50% D rate in this country) just make sure that if you get to the point that you are done continue to take the high road and D before stooping to the level of many spouses. That way you can live your life proudly with no regrets. I don't think it will come to that because you are stronger than you know, and you have a lot more fight left in you. Believe me there is probably not a person on the board that does not want to be held, even if it’s just to fill the void.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
