So H joined us in the "40 club" huh? And you're worried about not throwing a party...um, your 40th was in April, right...I don't seem to recall a big bash being thrown for you....
Excellent move on getting out for an adventurous dinner on Sunday. I know how your H felt...sometimes I mourn the loss of the weekend too, especially when there's been too much work and not enough play.
Hmmmmm, Shiny- you are correct- no big bash for me on my birthday. So, I should stop feeling guilty or obligated to do this for him. He doesnt want to make a deal out of it anyway. In fact this morning he said- i'm forty. I said just like your favorite drink - the forty ouncer. He liked his watch a lot. Put in on immediately. Dont be mad at me he said before he left. I said I just wanted him to stay and I wanted him to wear his weeding ring. I know he says and hugs me I sent him some over the hill cookies by delivery yesterday to his office. They sat in the lobby until he asked the secretery to get them. So everyone saw them while he was at another location and the "happy birthday baby love, shay" card was open for all to see. So, he said everyone was talking about it and they didnt know it was his birthday. I told him I hoped it didnt cramp his style as in his availability to all the women in the office . Absolutely not he laughed. So in some ways we made a step- I am acknowledged as his wife. It is ok with the work crowd. I guess. H mentioned having an outing with his staff and including spouses, which would mean he is seen with one. hmmmm... I dont think this will happen but at least he is thinking along these lines! Tired of this silly arrangement, his sister if freaking out too. She got a "dr." that gives truth serum and found out her now fiance will not be faithful (??????!!!)- dont know what the heck this is all about except it is really weird. H thinks so too and this can only help make him want to be home instead of there I hope. That is it for now- PAm, how is today for you? hope it is ok!
She got a "dr." that gives truth serum and found out her now fiance will not be faithful (??????!!!)- dont know what the heck this is all about except it is really weird.
Now how does that work? Did he know he was being administered with truth serum?
I know that I am not alone in saying this - I wish I could get my hands on some of that serum and slip it to my H! Sure would spare me a lot of wondering.
Truth Serum. Makes me remember that scene in "True Lies". Jamie Lee Curtis askes Arnold if the serum is working. They were both tied up and captured by the enemy. He says, "Ask me something I'd normaly lie about." Instead of asking if he really had stayed faithful...she asked if they were going to die.
His response, "Yep!"
Laugh.
I LOVE that movie.
In real life, after I had my wisdom teeth out, I was still all loopy from the drugs I got. My mom took that opportunity to question me. I don't remember all the questions she asked, but I do have a very vivid memory of me sitting straight up in my bed, shouting, "I'VE NEVER DONE DRUGS!" I'm thinking she asked me and when I told her I didn't do drugs, she said I was lying. Pissed me off enough to bring me out of my drug enduced haze for a second...long enough to remember it. If that hadn't happened, I'd have never have known what she did.
To this day, I haven't forgotten.
I love my mom and have worked through a lot of stuff with her...but I won't forget her doing that.
I felt like she invaded my privacy and my right to be my own person. Like she penetrated into my inner being.
Welcome to the psycho world of my inlaws ...and this is the person my H talked to and stays with. I think the truth serum is scotch, personally. Get this: My SIL is dating a guy 12 years older (she is 39 and last husband was 20 years older and M lasted 6 mo) anyway, this new guy has had many many affairs and is D with college age kids. So she has dated him 6 months and she asks HIM to marry her....worse than Jlo and ben in IMHO. Anyway LOL to her- hope the witchdoctor straightens this out for her. But I need to distance myself from this crazyness- got enough myself.
PinT: I have had issues with my mom too! Too much trying to please her or listening to her opinion when I didnt want it. I understand how you felt about that drug questioning too! but I too have let that stuff go as far as I can tell. No one is perfect and if she wants to give her opinion, I try to curb the conversation elsewhere. Or just dont listen to it. It was so bad at one point that I wouldnt tell her my baby names until the kids were born so I wouldnt get to hear her critique. For D number 3, I told her I was naming her Coco. My mom said she would then just call her Allison.
Sounds like good, slow steady progress for you and H!
Dont' sell yourself short here, the progress appears to be just as much yours as H's. H may be getting more comfortable, but I also see that you aren't quite so needy or pressuring H to make decisions. Sometimes in this hurry up and get it done yesterday world, we forget about the need for humans to take things at their own individual pace. We all move to different rhythms, it is our ability or inability to synchronize those rhythms that determine lasting partnerships.
Quote: Welcome to the psycho world of my inlaws ...and this is the person my H talked to and stays with. I think the truth serum is scotch, personally.
Shay, I've laughed out loud more than once today on the bb...this was a good one! I'm sure CJ thinks I'm crazy. (crazier? )
this whole truth serum witch doctor thing is just too much!! You can't use "truth serum" to tell the FUTURE!!!
Sodium Amytal (I believe) IS like a mild general anaesthetic, it actually affects the brain similarly to booze ...(scotch! ). It relaxes the areas of the brain which usually keep a lid on stuff.
So you will say the "truth" with no inhibitions. But it HAS to be stuff that's already IN THERE!! Your own memories and attitudes, feelings.
Notice that I put quotations around "truth"...I have this vague memory of saying "I Love you!" to my doctor during my first colonoscopy (back to that again!)
I was 22 and he was kinda cute.
One GOOD thing, Shay...this kind of craziness where H is "living" can be a very helpful thing for YOU!
Shiny
P.S. You know, if my Mom had had the opportunity yours did, PinT, she'd have taken it! She read private letters, I never did keep a journal.
I know how your H felt...sometimes I mourn the loss of the weekend too, especially when there's been too much work and not enough play. 
. Absolutely not he laughed. So in some ways we made a step- I am acknowledged as his wife. It is ok with the work crowd. I guess. H mentioned having an outing with his staff and including spouses, which would mean he is seen with one. hmmmm... I dont think this will happen but at least he is thinking along these lines! Tired of this silly arrangement, his sister if freaking out too. She got a "dr." that gives truth serum and found out her now fiance will not be faithful (??????!!!)- dont know what the heck this is all about except it is really weird. H thinks so too and this can only help make him want to be home instead of there I hope. That is it for now- 
...and this is the person my H talked to and stays with. I think the truth serum is scotch, personally. Get this: My SIL is dating a guy 12 years older (she is 39 and last husband was 20 years older and M lasted 6 mo) anyway, this new guy has had many many affairs and is D with college age kids. So she has dated him 6 months and she asks HIM to marry her....worse than Jlo and ben in IMHO. Anyway LOL to her- hope the witchdoctor straightens this out for her.
