Hi all- back from a relaxing week at the lake for the most part! We were a little strained middle of the week- I could tell H was getting antsy or just imagining it and letting it bother me- but we had some really fun times. Slept with H for 7 straight nights! woohooo! It was Ok from that perspective. Last night H was in a good mood but had a dinner- I told him he should come home instead of sisters house and he said I know and I am seeing someone as in a C tomorrow (!!) He called me on his way and was happy and so was I of course! I got a new car- a convertible BMW- a birthday gift if anyone remembers that ordeal! It is gorgeous and I feel like a million dollars in it - big boost to the PMA I hate to say. H was very pleased with my enthusiasm and big smiles! H always said he couldnt please me esp. with gifts. I also just met H for lunch after his appt with psychologist and he said she had some pointed questions for him and beat him up a little but it was good. They talked about me and also she gave him a personality book to work on from a college on the east coast...dont know yet. I did like hearing that she was direct with him and gave him some flack. In some ways he is pretty easy on himself or has excuses for himself instead of being accountable. I guess we all do that when things are tough maybe. I didnt ask him much about it but feel happy he is doing something. If he talks more I will listen!! I tend to make the conversation too light I think when he starts talking. Next time I shut my mouth. At the lake we did some work, took a run, had some drinks, boating, out to breakfast, made a bonfire, had some friends down and went on a few great night cruises. So overall great break! H made a comment about maybe moving home in the future sometime, possibly getting a suburban and keeping his jeep to drive in the snow. But just an idea he says. So...pretty non commital. He said he would come back in the middle of the night last night but didnt. He called ot apologize, which he never used to do= said he didnt like when he didnt keep his word. This was disappointing to me this morning and I accepted his apology and got on with things without resentment. I hope his new C is good. I am thinking about sending him part of that DB newsletter talking about MCs. Today is my D's b-day and she is seven! Looking forward to a party tonight with my parents, H and my brother. oh yes, the sister my H stays with, proposed to her whacko boyfriend and getting married in June 2004. H and FIL dont like him. Somewhat interesting, hmmmmm.... Shay Hope everyone had a good week last week and looking forward to catching up on your sitches!
Hey Shiny! I would take you for a ride anytime! maybe I will get one of those "you are hot" notes like you? I am really getting positive about my H seeing a C and his response since then has been very affectionate and humble. Almost like he feels better and relieved and looks at me like he appreciates me. I wonder if the C thinks I am crazy for hanging with him. I dont know why I shy away from hearing his innermost thoughts- I guess I hated hearing all that crazy stuff out him for the last 2 yrs. He used to talk about how he was in love with 2 women, we are just different, he doesnt trust ME, blah blah and the feeling that I didnt know this person anymore and his lack of reality in his ideas. I need to work on this because I think maybe he may say some good stuff these days or at least bring us closer. Fear of intimacy? hmmmm. Fear of spelling it wrong? Doesnt even look right on paper! H said last night that C told him not to change anything until they met again in 2 weeks. Does this sound good? Shay
Sounds like things are positive. I would say that not changing to many things right now would be good. Keep doing the things that are working and it is seems like things are starting to work. Well sounds like the car is fun. Have a good time with it.
A ride sounds great! So does your H's C. Whatever she's doing, or allowing HIM to discover, looks pretty good from over here!
Yeah, I know what you mean about having heard utter "craziness" from your H. When CJ opened up about stuff at first it was a nightmare...I mean I found out a lot, but some of his thoughts and actions were so...crazy (like the incredible, fantastical lies).
To be honest, we haven't had a real deep talk in quite a while. Which is why contacting our C again for a "tune up" is on my list this week.
Shiny, Pam, lee- I like this C he has seen- I saw her card and it is a group called Conscious Living. Not sure if this is just a good name or if it is some new age thing. Any of you experts ever heard of this name before? or anything like it? he sees her again on Aug 20. Today my H turns 40!!!! He is sort of trying to avoid it. I bought him a watch he looked at about 10 years ago and decided he couldnt afford it at that time. Hope he likes it. We are going to the REds game and maybe dinner. No party or anything from me yet- H doesnt seem too into it. Do I do it anyway? If I dont I may get accused of not caring at a later date- that is how it seemed to work when the bomb dropped. We had a tough weekend physically- we put in 6 TONS of gravel for my daughters playhouse base. We ( or me ) also ran a 7 yr old birthday party. She is a drama queen my littlest one- she can have fun no matter who shows up. Full of life, that one! I told H she could have had 10 kids she didnt even know come and she would have had as much fun. Wish I was like that~~! H worked very hard- sore muscles. The good thing was we worked on it together. I didnt act like the boss as I might have done in the past. We worked together and it was nice. We havent done that maybe ever! On Sunday night, H was a bit down about his weekend disappearing so I made the kids hotdogs and we left to go out to dinner- showered and hungry and dressed nicely. We had a good time - had some Japanese and Korean authentic food and it was an adventure! Drank some large Japanese beers and went home to take a drive in the new car. we cranked the stereo and acted like kids really! Overall, we are doing pretty well I guess. More good news: H is being offered a job in a different location- a sort of promotion. Less stressful hopefully and away from that building that loser OW works in. Wouldnt that be awesome. NO more sightings in the hallway or lunchroom. Now if we can conitnue MC with a new C after H gets done with his C, I think we could wade through some of the remaining communication topics we avoid. DOnt know for sure. This is my thought. I keep on making myself better, start running more again, focus on work a bit more, work with the kids more and have more fun. I am pretty upbeat today, hope it lasts! I missed you guys - 4 days off and I dont get on the BB as much. Shay
