I'm sorry that you're feeling down. You can't always be a fountain of joy, Where. You're allowed to wallow in sadness for awhile just as long as you pick yourself back up and get on with your day.
Your H isn't going to the funeral with you? Have you asked him or do you not even want him to go?
(((W2G)))
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
((((Where))))) Sorry you're feeling down. I'm thinking of you and sending big hugs.
I also wanted to say that I totally understand and empathise with the feelings about OW. Every single one, and I am similarly Grrrr. (I know that's not solution based, sorry DB superstars)
I am sad you are sad. I have been to so many funerals the last 6 years (xH's family) that it didn't bother me in the end anymore... Still, I know the feeling... Makes you think what's valuable, what's lfe all about, how stupid DAMs are, what low lifes OW are, etc etc.
Turn it around and look at your soon to be 3D (3D daughter LOL) and keep your strength... Low points are natural. It will pass Love K
Sorry about your uncle's death and that you were feeling so down today. I too greatly empathise with your feelings about OW. But you're right - she's a skank and definitely not worth feeling down about. Hopefully you will feel better in a couple of days once the funeral is over and you can get some closure.
(((((HUGS)))))
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Re. the art, I kept offering my H things to take to his "apartment" (he didn't have one yet though) and he declined, told me to pack his stuff up and keep it at our new house. Now he wants to move back in....so you never know what H is thinking!
I also HATE all OWs, whether it is healthy or not. My H's C just told him in order to have any success with ME, SHE must be entirely out of the picture. Don't know if it always works that way or if my H is just especially addicted.....But yeah, if he still worked with her I couldn't be trying to work it out. Of course, I don't recall the history of his, was is an EA or PA. Mine being a PA I don't want them anywhere NEAR each other...
Thinking of you today. If he is buying art for the new place, clearly he still has it in his mind that you will be back together at some point.
Yeah, she's just a ho bag (and supposedly it "was" just an EA... but I'm not really all that trusting of this so it could have been/be a PA).... really, really don't like her and wish she would fall off a cliff or something but what can I do?? Nothing!
So the funeral has come and gone... spent some time with my Dad's side of the family.. saw my step Mom. I don't see her very often. She's my brothers' Mom and my Dad and her have been separated for 14 years or so now.. My Dad's been with his current girlfriend pretty much since the day they split.. But, they are still married... just legally separated.
Anyway, it was nice to see her. She was a really great Mom to me when I was little. And she's still a fantastic person now.
D2 (nearly D3) looked so cute in her dress... my sister brought her d5 and the girls doodled in a notepad during the church service.
H flew out of town on business yesterday so he wasn't able to come with me. Chances are even if he was in town he would have been working... but in the off chance that he wasn't I'm pretty certain he would have come. He would know how much it would mean to my Dad...
Feeling drained of energy today.. tired.. but not down like I was yesterday. Funny how each day brings a different emotion.
Here you are!!! I'm so sorry, I was still looking for you in newcomers, like.... where is where?????? And here you are! I hope you didn't think I was ignoring you, especially when you have been so supportive on my thread! Now I am the only one I know left in newcomers, maybe I should move to, but not sure where I belong???
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad's brother... (((WHERE)))
Do not worry, when you vented about the OW on your thread I thought: yeah!!! Where is opening up!!!!! thank you for letting us see your frustration too and not just your strength!
You have gotten such good advice about your daughter already but it reminded me of this really good book I read called "Why We Do What We Do". Basically it is about how almost all of our culture/society is based on controlling people... but people really don't respond to control very well! So, it is always better to nurture the instrinsic rewards than extrinsic rewards. Obviously I am not a Mom so what do I know but I don't like the equation obedience=reward that much. I prefer something like exploration=fulfillment and discovery...
OK pontificating over!!!
(((((WHERE))))) LOVE, T
PS... I really like that H is buying art for your new place
Grrrr. (I know that's not solution based, sorry DB superstars)