No , just kidding~ ....but seriously what does that mean? ~Ali
Sorry...
It's a BDSM term really, and means that you can SWITCH between being on 'top' or on 'bottom,' either being the dominant partner or the submissive partner, depending upon circumstances.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
..... far too many to really post here. And too x rated too. oops~ Would possibly ~ no not possibly it would most likely get deleted for sure. Lets just say I am an open book with him and he enjoys it! MY H and I are very open and it makes it fun. But it really has become even more fun by us being very intimate. When we ML it is so awesome and when we **** it leaves you breathless at the very least.
For example..... the other nite I had a few glasses of wine. And got "dolled" up. No panties ( H seems to love this) and then I put on a "movie" for my hubby. Guess what ?
He turned it off... .... and told me ..... "that doesnt turn me on honey " " YOU DO~! "
That turned me on more than anything. OOOH~ I was putty in his hands. I am open to things but still I want to be the one who drives him crazy. He was in New Orleans working as I have mentioned before and we had some "voyeristic" fun..... I have to be honest here though. If I had not had a few drinks I may not have been so uninhibited. And it was dark too. My H does help me push the envelope in our sexuality and yet he is nice and respectful enough to know when I cant go too far. I also push him and let him know he can be open with me.
But see this takes actually for my H and I to be as close as we are now. In the past when I felt like I was just a piece of a** even to my H .... these fantasies and fun things we do would have not seemed like good sex at all. It may have seemed like torture.
It takes a lot of work to get to the point where you see sex for what is is between two loving adults that are committed to one another. It makes for very hot sex. IT turns it into this open canvas where you can create some very beautiful art work. If it is just push-release-done. That is all it will ever be. But when you are truly intimate it can be the kinkiest sex in the world and it doesnt seem "dirty" at all.
.... ooooooooh I like that~ Thanks for the compliment. Huge compliment seeing as my H said I was nil to low drive just a year ago. Multiple affairs * ( ON H PART NOT MINE*), stuck in MOM mode... and not communicating were killing me.* ( and my H ) THANKS ~B.
Would possibly ~ no not possibly it would most likely get deleted for sure. Lets just say I am an open book with him and he enjoys it!