Kat, do you think that at some point, it should have been you to file? Or would you have let it play out the same again. If he wanted out, he had to file.
I'm just trying to think, if he felt the same exact way that he does, but never filed. It just dragged on. How would you feel about that, I wonder? Would it keep making you have hope?
I'm asking for my own selfish reasons.
H4H, not Kat, but I did have in my mind that if my H hadn't filed I was going to set some kind of deadline or date and do it myself--I didn't want to wait forever while my H was dating or living with OW or whatever. I know I would have waited probably a year or two, but then I don't think so after that. At a certain point, if your WAS won't give up the OP, obviously you can't wait forever with her keeping you as Plan B or whatever. I have read several times that you will know when it is time; don't know if that is true, but maybe people just finally get too tired of waiting or whatever. I think you should follow the 48 hour rule also; if you feel like filing the paperwork then I'd wait 48 hours to do it and see if you feel the same. It's obviously such a final thing; you would want to be sure. In some ways I guess it was easier for me that my H filed b/c I didn't have to figure that stuff out. Karen
