Hey Shiny and Pam-
Not sure ! but we are all on the same page nonetheless! I tried to catch up on a lifetime of Pam and read all of her thread so I could have missed some stuff along the way! I am shocked at the similarities in any case and I agree, he is not leaving for OW, but for himself and for Pam. If I remember right, I made the mistakes of bringing up OW too often driving my H away and was hoping someone else could learn from my mistakes. I think with my H, once he had it in his mind to sep., it was just a matter of time. If he has sep. when he wanted, I think the OW would have been a bigger factor. But my H did it kind of after the PA, he looked her up and started trying to see that she wasnt so great, so he saw her about 6 times initially , his comment was that their conversations werent really that stimulating after all. Now he has since said that was the thing that really connected them more recently.???? So who knows except that we need to work on communication!
More later- thanks for all the support girls!
And I also feel like Yashie- I cannot keep up with everyone I like to and not being as supportive lately!
Good vibes from H yesterday! More later- have a good day!
Shay