I have very long hair too.... my H doesn't like it pulled back.
Interesting....
His Mom is very uptight , stiff hair do etc. etc. etc.
You know "MOM"~ mode...

Anyway I see your point. Weird in a way that one looks for that opposite almost.
Any good books on the subject?

I myself have read Passionate Marriage and loved it.. a bit complicated but I loved it.
I grew up with the belief that my sex drive was "bad".
And good girls dont... well they dont so much of anything.

When I met my H I devoured him like an eclair. Sexually I felt strong and I loved exploring my sexuality with him and then I had kids with him and it "magically" disappeared.
UUGGH~

Anyway your post has opened up a new way of looking at things for me.. I am definitely going to at least read about it some more.
I was in sex therapy a long time ago but I was "recovering" and " surviving" so I didnt get to explore my sexuality too much.. \:\(

WE have explored fantasies and have a lot of fun with it actually. I am very open and liberal.
Last year when I was testing the naughty girl water again.....
I picked him up at the airport w/o undies on... in a dress and showed him on the drive home. He loved it and we had a great evening.....
I am very open at at the same time I have to fight my internal dialougue. And that is sometimes hard....

I also *( now~) put my H before my kids and yes that sounds like I am a bad Mother in print......

But actually it makes me a very good Mother.
It is amazing how happily the home runs when Daddy is happy and Mommy is happy. I used to follow the order that is somehow preordained by who I dunno?
First make kids happy then hubby and if there is time left you can be happy too but not before your kids for heavens sake.

And then I opened my eyes....

Thanks ~B ,
~Ali