When he was over all of the time, that was hard because like Jeff says everytime he left he was leaving me again all over. I know we still have a strong connection it has just taken one hell of a beating. I also am not thinking about being his friend as long as OW is in the picture. He knows that.
As far as filing, I wasn't wanting to give up and we were still having lots of family time that was good, so I would have left it up to him. If he hadn't file by this time and had still acted the way he did about my fender bender, I would have filed.
It has taken me a long time. He hasn't been this distant for the whole time this has been going on,he has been sitting on the fence. I think OW must be putting pressure on him too. I know he is not thinking, she is like me in someways, kids, work and school then my H, those are her priorities and pretty much in that order. H won't be first, poor baby.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory