At least he had some insight as to why he acted the way he did on the boat, but it certainly sounds like an over-reaction to me...really MEAN! ...But then we're only hearing your perspective....perhaps it DID trip some old memories/feelings for him, but the next time that happens (and it will) I hope he tries to express it differently!
Like perhaps: "That tone I'm picking up from you just gave me a chill, I felt trapped and controlled again"
Put that way, there's a much better chance to deflate the situation, perhaps have you do a brief check on whether something in your tone MIGHT have contributed? I only say this because I am notorious (apparently ) for using various "tones" to convey all manner of nastiness! 90% of the time or more I am completely unaware of it...until CJ points it out. At the time I am usually convinced I had no "tone" or that at the very least it wasn't directed at him...but there's usually something real beneath it.
I've seen this and lived this with my own mother. What she could convey with just an expression (disdain, disapproval) and a tone of voice!!!
I'm glad the rest of your weekend went well. I am continually amazed by your strength through all of this, Shay!
Shiny
I hate to press this, but I'm even more baffled about your H's mental health...depletion of serotonin (common in anxiety and depression) can be associated with impulse control problems. (as is booze)
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...But then we're only hearing your perspective....perhaps it DID trip some old memories/feelings for him, but the next time that happens (and it will) I hope he tries to express it differently! 
) for using various "tones" to convey all manner of nastiness! 
90% of the time or more I am completely unaware of it...until CJ points it out. At the time I am usually convinced I had no "tone" or that at the very least it wasn't directed at him...but there's usually something real beneath it.
