Hey Shay, I don't have any advice to share, I just wanted to check in on you, keep up with your situation.
I know what you mean about how it makes you feel when you have to listen to your H stick up for the OW. How she suffered and blah, blah, blah.
I recently told my H that I really don't care if OW is suffering and thinks that she's been wronged. She new what she was getting into when she got involved with my H. She new he was married and still living with his W. She didn't give a second thought to how this was impacting my life, so I could care less about her feelings. It was such a relief to get that off my chest.
However, I want to hand out one caveat here, my H and I had both reached the point where that kind of openess is alright. I don't recommend other's doing that unless they are confident that it won't blow back in their face. Forgiveness is probably the best route to take, but for me, I'm not willing to do that as of yet. Nor do I ever want H to add salt to that particular wound again.
Oops, I said I had no advice and then got carried away.
