Ok, so sorry: the gist of the R talk was this: H has been staying more this week and it has been hard for him- he doesnt feel an emotional connection - I am hard to talk to, he is hard to talk to. He has felt flat for the last month- like he has nothing to look forward to. Pretty bad huh? He does OK at the lake. He is trying to understand why a stranger made him feel so good and said they used to talk easily. He hasnt been in contact. He feels a sense of relief when he goes to his sister's. I am really tired of this! I think he would like to connect emotionally but we dont know how. He wants to know my true feelings even when they are bad. Pretty much a downer. I told him how I felt last 2 years and how the meds helped me with anxiety and why go around feeling bad because you dont want to take medicine? I think about a month ago he had hoped that he would want to stay home by the summer. He is such a downer at times. He said maybe this is how it is supposed to be?? It was worth coming back for the backrub last night. He thought maybe we should talk more but this talk didnt help me too much. I am really tired of him sticking up for OW. I asked him if he was sorry he did it and he said yes it was unfair to me, unfair to her and unfair to him. I asked him more questions about how they went from having lunch to having sex and he didnt answer. He said he was uncomfortable talking about it and it was personal and embarrassing. Makes me sick- so he is not over that fantasy and is really dipping in PMA. He said he is up and down and doesnt tell me about it because it is unfair to me to subject me to that emotional swing. What do you think? What could help us? Shay
I am hard to talk to, he is hard to talk to. He has felt flat for the last month- like he has nothing to look forward to. Pretty bad huh? He does OK at the lake. He is trying to understand why a stranger made him feel so good and said they used to talk easily. He hasnt been in contact. He feels a sense of relief when he goes to his sister's. I am really tired of this! I think he would like to connect emotionally but we dont know how. He wants to know my true feelings even when they are bad. Pretty much a downer. I told him how I felt last 2 years and how the meds helped me with anxiety and why go around feeling bad because you dont want to take medicine? I think about a month ago he had hoped that he would want to stay home by the summer. He is such a downer at times. He said maybe this is how it is supposed to be?? It was worth coming back for the backrub last night. He thought maybe we should talk more but this talk didnt help me too much. I am really tired of him sticking up for OW. I asked him if he was sorry he did it and he said yes it was unfair to me, unfair to her and unfair to him. I asked him more questions about how they went from having lunch to having sex and he didnt answer. He said he was uncomfortable talking about it and it was personal and embarrassing. Makes me sick- so he is not over that fantasy and is really dipping in PMA. He said he is up and down and doesnt tell me about it because it is unfair to me to subject me to that emotional swing. What do you think? What could help us? 
