For the Guy with kids and a WW 6

[hopeful4her]

Wife and girls came at about 10pm last night. Quick snack and then to bed for the kids. Roomie took her purse into the bathroom for her shower??? I was watching the beginning of "Urban Cowboy". One her favorites. The comes and lays down on the bed and starts to fall asleep. I ask if she was watching the movie, and she said sort of. I turn off the tv.

Laying in bed for a few minutes, I start the conversation.

"So what brought on your temper yesterday?"
"Ummmm"
I give her a minute.
"Was it one thing or a mix of things?"
"Uhh, probably a mix of things. I did start my period yesterday."
A couple minutes later.
"What else was it? You were in such a good mood on Tuesday. Was it the account?"
"Yes, that started it."
"Why?"
"I was frustrated, Roger. We can never get ahead."
"Believe me, I know. I get frustrated, too. I don't like it, either."
I let a couple more minutes pass.
"What scares you, Clarissa?"
"Hmmnn?"
"What scares you. I mean what are you most afraid of at this point in our situation?"
Quiet.
Laying there a bit, I figured out that she fell asleep.

Ok, conversation over.

I get up this morning. I start my day. I wake up wife. I iron my clothes and I hear her get up. By the time I get back to the bedroom, she is bundled up and laying on my side of the bed. I look at her. She "feels" me looking at her and she tells me she doesn't go in until 9:30. I let her sleep. I wake her up later. We are quiet with each other again. I am leaving while she is ironing her clothes. I tell her to have a good day. She didn't hear me. She stops and say, "What?"

"I said to have good day" a little short with her.
"You have one too", almost sarcastically.

What are we doing? What am I doing? This is not how I want things to go with us.

I have to maintain the high road concerning us.

Our financial situation upsets her. It upsets me, too. We got ourselves in this situation. Not just me. But she saw the bank account, and took two steps backward.

Just like that. Our same thing. One step forward and then two steps back. Isn't that just like her. All the good we were getting to, then its just erased by her frustration. Like she was going over the other day. Negatives.

Will try to continue that conversation tonight if possible.

Also going to send her an email. Just say hi and let her know that I get frustrated too, but we are in this sitch together. It is also frustrating to me to have her swing her extreme emotions.