I have to agree with Shiny about your situation being a tad bit wicky-wacky. You must be an enormously patient human being. I'm not too sure that I would be able to hold up under the same circumstances.
Could your H be chemically imbalanced? Is this something that you've already hashed over? If so, I apologize for bringing it up.
I think the idea of being a little mysterious is a good one. Nothing big, maybe an evening away from the house now and then.
