Help! New to this...still hoping for R

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I also feel angry and frustrated that we would have no money issues if we were still living together.

I have this issue as well sometimes. Especially when my husband says there is no money for something for the kids (like a class).
I don't know how to combat. I feel this way less often now, than I did earlier in my sitch. Maybe time is a factor.

I called him back after about an hour and told him how I felt about the situation, that I feel worthless and unwanted because I can't find a job and also by him. That I was trying but I couldn't force someone to hire me. He said he understood, and that "whether we are together or not" we have always been good a finding solutions and he wanted to talk with me about alot of things when he gets back from the HS reunion. Said he had a reason for wanting to go and it wasn't what I thought (hooking up), but for confronting some of his childhood issues. (??)
What are your thoughts about this conversation and how should I handle this convo on Sunday?

Rusty, I think you're still looking to him for validation. Which is understandable but not helpful in your goal of attracting him again. You feel bad, you want him to make you feel better, to resume his role as "protector" of you, and he's not into that right now. I understand feeling that way (believe me, I do) but for now you need to try and show your H your confident side.

As far as him telling you that he's going for childhood issues, isn't that a possibility? He might be going to see if he can hook up, but I think you are projecting your fears onto this trip and it's making you cling to him, which is what you don't want to do.

Tell him to go and have a great time and you'll talk to him when he gets back. Basically that's all you can do anyway. You can't stop him from going, right?

And when you talk on Sunday, well, just be open. I'm certain you're worried that it's THE TALK, but divorce is just a piece of paper, and it is not the end, truly.

(((((Rusty)))))