My H was very scared going into the weekend, and thought it was going to be finger pointing and blame! But he quickly saw it wasn't! And don't worry about the tears! Its almost expected! And there will be boxes of kleenex everywhere! Its a good time to cleanse, and let it the emotion go! I hope you have booked the Monday of work! You will need a day just to relax! If not call in sick!
Again enjoy the weekend and embrace it!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
Husband, I wish you both the best this weekend. As you know, my STXH and I were registered for this exact session but we are not going. Make the most of it!
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
I'm so excited for you. I hope it goes really well.
cw68 - sorry that you ended up not going.
I chickened out on asking my H to go... it's not easy! H (the poster, not mine ), I'm proud of you that you 1. asked and 2. are following through, because I know you've got to be so nervous.
Funny side note.. I didn't realize WHAT hotel Retro was at, just knew it would be in Sac. Found out the specifics and it's seriously about 5 minutes from my house. So H obviously it would be weird for me to drop by and say hello but I'll be thinking of you and your W, and I'll give a wave on my way home from work tonight!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I think EVERYBODY here in Piecing needs to go to Retro, Heck I think even happily married couples should go. I am very exhausted right now. I went through so many emotions this weekend I am drained. It is a good thing I took Monday off. Now the wife and I have not fixed anything yet except... our communications. WE ARE TALKING AND LISTENING to each other. I want so bad to rush ahead in this process but as the presenter said. "It took years for us to get to this point. We can't fix it overnight. I have seen so many positive changes with W. We still slept in separate beds this weekend but it still was very nice being in the same room at least. I did not hold back. I told my wife some things that I have been holding back for so long. She told me a few things. Even though my wife never said she was sorry for what she had done, through the exercises we did this weekend I know she is truly sorry for the hurt she has caused me. I know it was difficult for her to show up there. But she did. By her actions I know my W does want to try to make our marriage work, Thank you for all of the prayers that were said for me. I really do think God was listening. He has pointed my wife and me in the right direction. Now it is up to us to continue down the path. Those of you in my inner circle of E-mail will be getting some mail in the morning. I just finished my NEW... 20 minute exercise with my wife on communicating that SHE initiated. We will be dedicating 20 minutes everyday to each other. We also have weekend meetings for the next 7 weeks. Sara…Tonight I have forgiven my wife for what she did. I told her I was opening up my heart to her. That I was making myself vulnerable again to her. I told her to please be careful the glue I used to mend my broken heart is not dry yet. What I did not tell her is that it is one thing to forgive. It’s another to forget. This I can never do. Need to get some sleep. You are right Jen.
The call me Dr LOve...............
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
), I'm proud of you that you 1. asked and 2. are following through, because I know you've got to be so nervous.
but I'll be thinking of you and your W, and I'll give a wave on my way home from work tonight!