Help! New to this...still hoping for R

[Rusty]

I would remind people that this is a divorce busting website and not a divorce website (even though I know you aren't married yet). I often think - when looking at others sitch's, how can they stay in that mess - but then I look at myself and I guess it comes down to you love whom you love and when you have so much vested in a relationship you want to exhaust every venue to make it work.

I'm sorry you feel hesitant because you have provided so much excellent advice to others, it isn't right that we can try to help you as well.