Shiny- you crack me up ...stupid comment, yes. And he did feel bad about it but I am pretty thin so maybe not so bad given that. One interesting thing about not wearing the ring, this was when he said he noticed other women- the only time in a long time he said, was at the Reds game. That is also when he noticed the ring off and probably started thinking in "single" terms again. Good that he noticed, good that it bothered him, bad that it sets off the "single" antennae. But...I noticed the girls at the game too- seems like alot of skin was showing. !
Ellie and Shiny- I hesitate to make him jealous with another "pretend" agenda- it seems to make him upset but feel like giving up. I do think a little mystery is really good as long as it doesnt include a OP or hint of one- this backfires. He has been jealous and mistrusting our whole M and I just found out about it last year!
A couple of good things to report!! I went to the lake this weekend with my Ds and 2 of their friends so it was me and 5 girls. We get stuck in 1.5 hours of sitting on the highway, engines off and by the time I get close to the cabin my nerves are frazzled. H is out with his drinking buddies this Friday- mental health he says. He calls a couple of times to check on me then nothing! I dont hear from him until 1 AM and he is at his sisters' house because it it closer to the lake drive and not because he avoids the house he says. I am upset and he feels bad and told me later he should have been with me since I had a bad drive. He claims to have left me a msg on my phone- I have 2 missed hangups from him but that is it. He somes the next day and is still a little sick. We have a good day although I am obsessing about his lack of info about Friday. I ask him more about it and he says just the guys and he had three beers all night. Had fun and talked about one of the guys I know. I asked which of his girlfriends were there and he says in a shocked way, NONE! Saturday night I asked him his favorite things about me and the rist one was how I tried to make myself better byt changing. Usually the first one is I am a good mom. This was good! I told him my favorite things about him and I think he was touched when I said his trying to know himself better. We has great sex and the next day he talked about how it felt so right. After we got back last night he wanted to know how many days I wanted to go to the lake on July 4th when we have friends down. He also mentioned maybe taking a vacation in the late summer !! Whoohooo!!!! I dont know if this will materialize, but it may! Plus he does feel guilty that the kids want to go on vacation and we are not so far. Then he starts to leave last night and I said he should stay. He said he was going to try it one night this week! I told him he was getting nerotic about it and he said I know. I said it is pretty easy, undress, crawl in bed. Just like the lake. I dont have a choice at the lake he says ...whatever....So..3 good things!!!! I still think he needs a therapist, he needs to commit, and we need to work on a better R. It felt like an "adult" R this weekend and felt great.
I feel pretty good I think. I have a tan! but got 2 tickets this morning
I ran an orange light, my license is expired because the computers were down the time I went to renew and I have avoided the experience to not stress myself out. Gotta go and the F cop was sooooo bummed out to "ruin" my day. I will not let it. H said he would give me a hug. Pretty much a bad morning - never run a red light with expired license- lesson learned. Anyway, H is nerotic, H has a bit of a pull in my direction.
Have a great day- be careful driving everyone...
PS I order the Beamer (Lee! what do you think???)