Wow! I like it here already! I am confused myself about the sister sleepover concept. I think in some way this is an anxiety control mechanism- he has maybe taken his anxiety and channeled into this part of our R. We are still intimate and everything else is semi and I do mean semi- normal. Last night H is getting ready to leave and says I like you. He says ILU lots but this was kind of fun to hear and I said I like you too, he disagreed kind of joking. So....hmmmm. He called when he got there and told me how great I looked at the swim meet last night. H is really sick and even stayed home from work with some sort of virus/flu thing! He is usually a workaholic so I told him I was proud of him for that, . This morning, because he is not there I am having trouble getting the kids to swimteam practice on my workin days. This stresses me out but I have done a good job of dealing with my stress about it. He called after I dropped them off and we were talking and I told him my stomach was nervous. He asked what I was anxious about and said I was not communicating when I say "I dont know". I told him finally lots of things, trying not to unload, I brought up the kids today, and whether we were going to the lake this weekend and that he hasnt had a sleepover with me. He said he could easily fix the last one tonight if he wasnt too sick!!! He may have to leave first and then return How do I get him to get over this? He seems to be trying a little harder even which I really do love. He wants a new therapist so I offered to help and he siad that would be great. He did ask our doctor friend for some meds but never got them- maybe I should call him to remind the doctor friend. Anyway, that's it for now. I would love to check in on everyone else today. Thanks Ellie for the referral and I will look for that. and Shiny, you are amazing! Maybe you will remember your wise words- I hate it when I get locked out of my thread!
Lee and Hoping - thanks too - I will look you all up again!
Shay