The C really seemed to like the messages/drawings on the mirror, and the idea of adding questions.
But, she is really pessimistic about W actually wanting to change. But, I think she is realistic. W has been like this forever, it's just that I have finally realized that it is not all my fault! I told the C that I didn't see how things could work if W didn't go to IC. She agreed, but we both don't think it is likely. W is strong, she is determined, she is independent. Her stong points are exactly the same things that will make it hard to get her to go to C. I am thinking of something like, "C has really helped me. Maybe you should try it." Not about anything specifically, just to try to get her in the door. I don't expect a result from that, though.
I agreed with C that I don't really expect W to change, but I said I have to give her the chance. But I also expressed my concern that things could change for a while, but then fall back to where we are now. Especially since it's really already happened once. You know, that is a really scary thought.
I also expressed to C that I don't feel like I have anything to lose at this point. Basically, what more can W do? C said I was desensitized. I guess that's another word for detached! I said that I really don't try as hard to please W anymore, there's nothing in it for me. Maybe that's selfish, but it is the truth. C said a R is supposed to be a reciprocal sort of thing. (I think that was the word she used, but you know what I mean.)
I'm sure there was more, but that seems like the high points. Things look a lot better for me, not so much for the M, really. I'm going to push more and more, in the near future, and see what happens. Something has to change!
