hi gang! I dont know if I am worthy of being in this group yet but I dont really feel like a newcomer anymore! 2 years of DBing puts me somewhere else right?? Basic rehash: M 17 years, D13, D11, D6 and H in MLC, lack of communication, H had PA and we MC for a year. H is staying at his sister's place only to sleep since October!!! Sick of this! anyway....mostly I continue to work on myself and get happier. I have changed alot but as H mentioned to MC last week (acc. to H), he doesnt know if the changes will last. H was disappointed in his session with MC because he asked him what he should do and MC had no suggestions!??!! H is afriad to move back in and feel trapped or anxious. He uses his sleeping at his sister's as "down" time. I said he needed a new way to get down time. Recap of significant events. We went for a drink together on Friday night and ended up discussing OP and that sitch from last year. I asked if it was over and he nodded. I asked if she called and he said sometimes but not in a while. I asked why she keeps calling and he said they used to be friends and it was why she probably called (BS). He said he usually ended the conversation quickly. He said it was not the person but the way that person made you feel. He said he would always love me. I said that sounds pretty final- he said he didnt mean it that way. He said I have been amazingly mature through everything. H went to the lake alone to do a quick payment and said he thought about me down there in a loving way. Then I ask him to stay rather than drive to sis' and he says I am glad you want me to but not ready. Maybe I will come back. So he has decided that if he sleeps at our house it may spark anxiety about OR. He says he is working on things and getting better. He would love it if I found another therapist so i will work on that. This would be for him. While giving me a back rub last night he says "do you hate me sometimes". NOooooo i said I dont ever feel that way. I am trying to be a little more confident around him and continue to have more fun. Goals: go to the lake this weekend with or without him, talk a little more. Hope I am in the right place and can keep up with my newest friends from newcomers- man, i was on page 11!!!! Shay
H is afriad to move back in and feel trapped or anxious. He uses his sleeping at his sister's as "down" time. I said he needed a new way to get down time. Recap of significant events. We went for a drink together on Friday night and ended up discussing OP and that sitch from last year. I asked if it was over and he nodded. I asked if she called and he said sometimes but not in a while. I asked why she keeps calling and he said they used to be friends and it was why she probably called (BS). He said he usually ended the conversation quickly. He said it was not the person but the way that person made you feel. He said he would always love me. I said that sounds pretty final- he said he didnt mean it that way. He said I have been amazingly mature through everything. 
