On the verge of piecing......a new beginning

[TwinDad]

Thanks Cat,

I had asked her about classes in the past. She has talked about opening an upper scale bar or a wedding event business. I have tried to help her with the business plans (helping gathering information, helping her write it when she feels like it). She shows an interest in it one day and talks about them frequently but doesn't do anything to make it happen. I don't push her aside from offering support when she seems like she is intersted in doing something.

I might bring up the classes again. She just has a HS diploma but is very smart and very business oriented. I think one of the issues she is dealing with is for a number of years she made some very good money...to the point where we never had to worry about anything...if we wanted it we went out and got it. Of course that had a big impact on our R due to the stress of the job. For a long time now she has been burnt out.

That has changed dramatically now. We have downsized our house and we are now in a sitch where she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to....it would be very tight but it is doable. She will always want to work....it is just in her nature. I think she is having a hard time dealing with the fact that the care free days are over. It is not a big deal to me aside from how it has affected her, but for a long time it was how she defined herself. Almost like a love/hate relationship.....she loved the money, she hated the toll it took on her, she loves the idea of a new business, but hates the idea that her lifestyle is going to go away.

I hope this is temporary for her, she has had waves of this in the past. She would come home saying she wanted to quit her job and two weeks later she was loving it.