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Hello,
As some of you know I have been around here for 6 months.
I have backslid a number of times and been hit badly by 2 x 4s from many of you. There have been some incredibly helpfully people along the way.
I have tried a number of DB techniques and some have worked and some have not. The truth is I just don’t know what has or has not worked.
I have gone a bit dark but W sends me an email within a day of two about our D5 and S3. So, I don’t really know if going dark works. I have been very kind and given my W words of affirmation (her LL) and sometimes I feel that warms her up and sometimes I feel that cools her off. One week she is friendly and the next cool. Quite frankly I don’t know if it’s because of me or what she is going through on her side.
Two weeks ago we got together for the first time in 7 months and it was nice. We just talked about the kids and job stuff. We hugged at the beginning and end. I asked if she wanted to get together again to do something fun like a movie. She said that sounds like fun, let’s do it. I push on it in the following days and she pushed me back that I was being too intense :). So I have left it and I do not bring it up. We had some nice emails and phone calls where she was being sweet. No talk of R, just kids etc. I kind of pushed that I wanted to tell her some of the things which have changed in how I view things etc. Again she said she would listen, but has not asked for it, so I dropped it. This week started out a bit frosty and warmed up a tiny bit. Last night we had a great conversation about things with the kids. We ended it with very gentle good nights to each other. This morning I sent her a text saying how much I appreciated talking to her and that I went to bed felling nice. This may have been too much for her?
Here is what she wrote to me in response to my morning email:
“It was really nice to share stories! We should definitely continue to do that.
Call the kids whenever you want this weekend.
Talk to you later.:)” She signs her emails to me now with a smiley face.
So, she has made it clear that she liked talking about the kids and nothing else.
Should I call this weekend to see how the kids are doing or leave them alone?
I know this is a good baby step that she wants to continue to talk about the kids. It may never go further than that. I guess I should only contact her when there is something to talk about the kids?

Would love to hear some opinions. Bridgestone, where are you? I am sorry again if you became frustrated with me. DAM