Thanks. I have been trying to get it through H's head that we couldn't afford to do this in hopes that he would get his head out of his behind. As I have already admitted, I knew I was going to have the house and would have enough to pay everything, trying desperately to keep us out of bankruptcy.
This entire time I have felt as if I was stumbling in the dark not really knowing what to ask or do. I have probably screwed this up royally.
kat
Well, you haven't screwed up at all from what I have seen; you've been doing all the right things and your H is the one screwing up. But you do know that, right??? We are in the same financial sitch as yours I think since my H started the affair he started using our credit cards for hotels and then when he moved out bills, pogo sticks, etc. We can't really afford D either and I think both of us will be really broke after the D. He's figured out I will be but not that he will be also when he gets done paying child support & alimony probably. I've told him that 2 or 3 times, but I give up at this point. I guess eventually our Hs will have to figure that stuff out, maybe? And Kat, what's going on today with you? I wish I could be there in Kansas with you!!! Virtual hugs are so lame!!! ((((Kat)))) Karen
