Upside - Hmm, can't say I've had the opportunity to validate yet. I've been wanting to talk to H more about everything but haven't had the chance to. It's nothing I feel needs to be said urgently, so I'm waiting for his cue. Even though I'm doing everything to make it easier for him to come home, I still feel like his coming home would be on his terms right now. As long as that didn't include ogre, I would be ok with that, seeing as how it's the only chance I have of him actually coming home. I'm looking at the big picture - short term, I have to let him have his way in order for me to ultimately have my way. But it's still WAY too early to even be thinking about that.
OC - Got another call today from H, supposedly to ask if S had tried calling him (H just got him his own phone, so why didn't he just call S directly??). H had some more good news for me. I congratulated him sincerely and was truly happy for him. Spoke about some of my work issues with him as well. I'm trying as subtly as possible to make talking to me a daily ritual. Slowly... H admitted recently that he really has no good friends now, maybe just 1 or 2. The rest are just drinking buddies. Without actually telling him, I'd like for him to know that he can always come to me to talk about anything (almost anything). But sometimes with H, I need to just come right out and say it rather than hope he gets the message. Anyway, I may still be delusional and really stretching my imagination when it comes to what stage I think H is going through at the moment.
peace - My H still isn't seeing things clearly. My fear is getting him back before he's completed his journey, still broken and unhealed. I guess I've been hoping for a new and improved H all along and he isn't there yet. So, time is on my side. You are right about OWs being a nightmare. At least that's what I think. I often wish I knew what was going on with them, if only for the drama!
Thanks girls for always being there with your comments and support!
