Hey Bill - Your 3 points are my mantra right now. I have gone through what you describe with S14. I have probably talked to him too much - he's way mature for his age so sometimes it's too easy. I've tried to backoff the last few weeks but when i do he then comes and asks me how I'm doing all the time.
My biggest problem with the boys is when they spend time with her before I get home from work. Apparently she just tries to avoid them so she can be free. So sad. I am pretty good about being very strong around them - have had 3-4 slip ups in 5+ months.
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.