Congratulations! This is great! And yes I totally believe the shirt and the cologne was worn for you. !!!
As far as counseling let me just say that I think that most counselors are bad and make relationships worse. I have been to a couple and that's what happened.
I would suggest getting a counselor who is connected with Divorce Busting...if I were going that is what I would do.
Keep in mind that someone on a different page here was going alone to a DB counselor over the phone and she was giving her bad and non-DB advice. The woman called DB back and explain what was being told to her and they agreed it was not good advice and she asked for a different counselor, whom she got and is very happy with now.
My point is that counselors are not God and don't subject yourself to one who is making you guys end the session fighting and crying. That happened to me and it didn't help the relationships, it helped end them.
So first call the number here and see if you can find a counselor connected in your area. Even if you have to travel an hour it's worth it.
Secondly the one counselor I had which I think was better than the rest although a far second to Divorce Busting (if you can't find any in your area) is connected with the book Getting the Love You Want.
So if there are no DB counselors in your area then I would suggest getting one over the phone or trying the Harville Hendrix counselors.
Hope this helps and good luck! I'm rooting for ya!
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