Looking for support from other WAS's

[lost3031]

When I first read your post, my defensive wall immediately came up, but after having some time to reflect upon what you said, I realize that you make some very good points. You're absolutely right that my husband is only 50% to blame for what went wrong in our marriage, and the truth is that I already miss my husband (I have since the day that I left), and I am very well aware that there is the possibility that he may not take me back the longer this drags out (he has basically told me so).

You're also right in that I should be giving him the credit he deserves for trying to change for me. I have to learn to control the anger that I feel (which probably really isn't anger at all, but some other undefined emotion which can go along with all the other undefined emotions I've had lately). This is something that I will work on, because I know for him it is a big step. Work is something that he loves to do and for him to be willing to cut down and spend some of that time and energy on me is a huge step for him. I guess maybe a lot of what I am feeling is fear, because he has done this before but it has only been a temporary fix. I'm afraid that, like all the times before, this is just a temporary fix to get me back - and then it will be back to the same old situation.

So, alexjadams, thanks for initially making me defensive by your post because it really made me think about some things in a different light. I will think seriously on the other points that you made as well...