I completely agree with Theo's logic and aims, however, the tactics are the question...I think that your H will only start to realize what he has done when the consequences are VERY clear.
One thing my L suggested is the she, the L, send my W a letter outlining what was about to happen.
In my case, the intent is to get my W to go to mediation and save us all a lot of grief and expensive L bills. However, I think it could also work in your case to wake up your H and be willing to take real steps to move on with his life.
Of course, you have to be willing to accept 2 things:
1. He may decide that he really wants a life without you.
2. You cannot back down once you make this ultimatum (whether in the form of a statement from you or a letter from L).
Best wishes (((YoYo))), SD
PS - Theo, I hope life is treating you well!
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
