You do what you wanna do, I leave it all up to you

[Sugar and Spice]

(((Michelle))) (((GF)))

So very sad. *sighs*

I know you know this..but don't enable him!

I know. He did actually buy the Wii and is going to pay for the cake, but its the whining and the expectation that I will just pull the money out of the air that gets me. You created this mess...BooHoo. Eye-roll.

That really is sad, but he made this, and now only he can fix it.

I say when you go to these events, take a friend if you can so that you're not expected to be sitting with just H all the time(something tells me that's what he would expect to happen). I really think H should start feeling and seeing you slip away. You ought to be less available to what he wants.

This is already happening. I do sit with him, but there are always other parents around and MIL is often there, H coaches 1st base, etc... There is not a lot of just us sitting there together as we are both involved in the game. As far as him feeling and seeing me slipping away, this is happening in some ways. He has noticed more than once that I do not initiate contact with him for no reason. If I call him, its because I need something from him or its about a game or the kids...I don't call to chat, I don't just text him to chat. He initiates all of that and has commented on it several times. I just remind him that I told him as long as there were 3 in the M, then I would not pursue him in anyway. Most of the time I get off of the phone first. When I get kids at MIL's house instead of hanging out, I get them and we go. It may not sound like much, but for us its huge. We (H, DS and I) had lunch today and I treated him like a friend, nothing more. Its hard, but I'm getting better at detaching.

I have not changed my mind about getting all of the legal stuff done, its too important. I'm waiting for my friend to let me know when she can get it done. Her D is having some scary health issues and we may have to postpone for a day or so. She has even offered to lend me the filing fee. She is adamant about getting this on record.

Thanks guys. I'm trying.