Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[mulesqb]

Hey FIB - Tonight she blew off both the boys baseball games and then met us for dinner. We went to the Chinese buffet. She was very strange - looks like she is there physically but not mentally. Spoke to me a little - not much to the boys. About 20 minutes in and one plate done she asked if it was ok to leave. S10 was in the bathroom. I said to her once again - sure - you don't need to ask my permission. She said ok - I'll see you home. When I got home she was in bed. Said she is having a hard time being around the kids - and work was very tough.

FIB - I am in agreement that there are no such things as babysteps. You either are in the marriage or you are not. Right now my W is faking it because she is so confused. It seems like her extremely moral inner self is trying to hold on - but there is so much conflict there. I keep trying to detach. It's not easy as you all know. A lot of people seem to confuse anger with detachment - the key word you guys keep using is lovingly. I'm able to do that about 3/4 of the time - when I can't I fake it.