It's been awhile. I think it is time for a little update.
First of all I saw my husband for the first time since moving out on Sunday (2 weeks after the move) and things went really well. He came over to drop off some things I left at the house when I moved out and he ended up staying for a little while so we could talk. I asked him if he had thought about my request to go to counseling and he said he hadn't had time to think about it yet (busy drinking apparently) and when we talked about it he agreed to go with me to couples counseling. Our first appointment is next Friday!
When he was over we talked to each other and really listened instead of arguing. He even opened up and told me some news about one of his good friends. He also was wearing one of the shirts that I really like and he knows I like it. Could be a sign. He was also wearing my favorite cologne even though he was just hanging out with his friend that day. Another sign?
Anyways I am just really happy and feeling hopeful about things.
Tink~I did get the book you recommended and I finished reading it in like two days. I wish I had bought it sooner when you suggested it before. The whole idea of surrenduring seemed so unappealing but as I read I could really see myself and my behaviors. Even if this relationship does not work out I can at least say that I will not be disrespectful to any future mates. Thank you for encouraging me to pick it up!
Does anyone out there have any advice about how to deal with counseling? I have never gone before and am not sure what to do/how to act. Any pointers or stories would be wonderful!
