Bavarian beers! The X was from Hamburg - so we didn't have too many Bavarian beers in the house when I was M b/c like most northern Germans - he did not consider Bavaria to actually be a part of Germany.
Clearly I am not an expert when it comes to dating. I have been on maybe all of 3 dates in my entire life. Most of my past R's were friendships that turned into something more. I am getting out more and just doing things I enjoy and if I meet someone - great - if not - not a big deal. I am very happy with where my life is today.
I dated a fellow Db'er several years ago. He was 2 years post bomb - emotionally D but not legally D - I dated him as a M person against my better judgement - and it was a disaster.
I now have a very B/W stand on dating while M. Either someone is M or not - and my brain reacts to someone legally M as a eunuch. I wander all over the place in my posts on the BB to process my thoughts - but in the real world I am very decisive and have no patience for people that are neither here nor there.
That being said - the majority of D people seem to be okay with dating while M and dating other people that are M. Different strokes for different folks. Just not my thing.
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Just feel it is time to move on, at least where I can control it.
I find that true control stems from relinquishing control.
