Help me Act AS IF, Part 7: The Separation

[newnamenewlife]

You're not rewarding him, you're behaving with calm dignity. Doesn't have anything to do with him.

I keep changing my tune. H came over to get the girls, who were not home yet--so we had about 1/2 hour alone. H waltzed into the house, mowed the lawn, got more of his stuff, then sat down in the living room, where I was. He said "so how are things? What are you working on?"

I was being all pouty and unfriendly and said "you haven't asked me those things in months" (which is true). Then I went back to working on my laptop and he got up and puttered in the kitchen.

I'm so confused about how I want to behave around him. He took ZERO interest in me, avoided me at all turns, during his last months living here w/me and now it hurts and angers me that he tries to be semi-friendly now that he's moved out.