okey dokey- that helps a lot- thats probably what he is doing is getting them out...just the undertones of depression and negativity are still there and i am so used to swooping in and "fixing" it...so this is a good lesson for me bc there is nothing to fix- just like you said..i just get to listen...thanks Neil!
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any ideas here? i also posted in my older post in MLC...just getting as much input on this as possible... ive been invited to France with my Brother next week! its a party scene and im not sure i should go- i really want to see France as ive never been - but its like girls gone wild and im not even kidding... would it be bad for me to go? what if i freak out while im there? any ideas? thanks!
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i guess i think id freak out bc im just feeling centered now and im afraid i would get anxious that i was out of my comfort zone...i definitely wont be GGW...but i will be around it- although i can escape and do my own thing...im also just weird about it bc i never have really travelled without my H....
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ps. another reason is our anniversary is july 21st...my DB coach suggested a card and maybe a small gift...and ask if he wants to do lunch or something-- but now i wont be here for it...
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ok- i feel like poop....im not going...thinking about going has made me feel unstable...i feel too stressed from it and right now being out of my comfort zone....i have done so well over the past month and i cant afford to do anything that will freak me out...i feel stable at home with all my friends an family, all my activities and my dog maybe another time with my H i also may do a shorter trip here to the mountains and my mom has invited me to NY to a fam reunion...i feel better just saying that. phew. noi get to tell my H when he emails/calls replying to my email from earlier that im not going...ill just be casual about it and say work is crazy....
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he's coming by my office today- he says - to sign docs for our house...so we shall see...i hope he asks me to do something fun with him soon- thats one of my goals: hike, movie, dinner, etc...but i dont have any HUGE expectations..just teeny ones (bad pisces!)
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there's nothing wrong with not going. it's ok. the comfort zone thing is understandable. GAL is about taking small steps outside of your zone (thanks forrest) not huge leaps.
you got lots of things going on....you're GALing just fine!
don't get too impatient (look at me saying that...LOL)....take your time. there's nothing wrong with having teeny expectations. It's good to hope for those things.....don't just get all set on them and if they don't happen, you get down.....
keep it up!
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
I think it's great that you recognize that while it's supposed to be fun, it would cause you more stress. That's huge insight, and I think you are making the right choice! We surely do not need anything else to cause us worry or stress right now.
I wish you felt better about it though. It would be fun for you, and would be a GREAT thing at making H wonder what is going on while you are gone! LOL
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
Hi Chris and Neil~ thanks so much for sheering me on :0) i do feel good about my decision- and it turns out my bro may not be able to go after all- he is very last minute...so its better for me all around..thanks for saying that...
also- my H called very late after he was supposed to be there yesterday and said he was sorry 3 separate times- then he wrote me another big email about house stuff and this and that....
so my expectations are trying to get the best of me- bc i wish he would ask me to do something- anything- with him....i think he is retreating after he opened up so much to me last week...so he said he wasnt ready to hang out or cme over , etc that night..i still think he has a lot to process...i know there is nothing i can do but i wish there was a way to make this go faster- and at the same time ti dont want it to go too fast- i know you guys know what i mean!
so i ahve to respect that and wait....ugh. i guess i want some reassurance- and im not sure his actions are giving me that right now- although he did reach out to me and apologize, etc.
oh- and Neil- the other night he did ask how i was doing- that was a big step- before he would just say i hope you are ok...
wait and watch, GAL, PMA, yada yada...just kidding!
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maybe another time with my H 
i also may do a shorter trip here to the mountains and my mom has invited me to NY to a fam reunion...i feel better just saying that. phew. noi get to tell my H when he emails/calls replying to my email from earlier that im not going...ill just be casual about it and say work is crazy....