my crazy mess part 3...

[christarn]

ok...we are not closing anything gumpy mcgumperson!!

fear...damn that fear....I am stuck, have been stuck because no matter what i fear the results. i push him, he falls back....i fall back...he tells friends i ignore him...no matter what i do, i feel it is the wrong move

the lashing...he has said those things to me before...just hadn't heard them in a while, so they were hurtful to me. i hadn't heard him say he actually wanted a D in a long time, last fall...then he called 3 days later and changed his mind. i told him he had an atty on retainer...if he wanted the D that bad, talk to his atty; he said i would bury him in paper work and drag it out because "I wanted what I couldn't have...him"...I honestly don't get why he hasn't talked with his atty, if he wants the D oh so badly...yes, first and foremost I want my M to work, but if it came to that point, I would cross that bridge when it came...but probably wouldn't be a narcissistic brat about it....will battle that later...for now...the this battle is the pool....

i will not put fear in the way of fixing this...R/M...or the pool for that matter...if i meet resistance, we will cross that bridge upon arrival! so now, my thoughts...let him decompress/let go of some of the anger from our phone conversation...then fix the damn pool

solution for the pool...will suggest a pool company look at it and make some suggestions for what we could do to fix it...and i could help with the cost...downside, only reason i would want to fix it, is because he knows now our "secret"....need to put a spin on it, that will make it benefit him...the deck, i know it's a pain now, but someday you may want it, have pool company fix it and close it...then it's taken care of until you want it...i have to stop obsessing and just throw it out there...bottom line pool needs fixed, it is legally my pool, so i need to take care of it