Thank you for the input. The anger is over many things, her weight, her health problems, her guilt of the A, her guilt about trying to balance work/kids/marriage but mostly her ongoing failure to meet her own expectations. This all came out in counciling. She blames me for everything that is wrong in her life. She has been furious about everything during the D process. Mostly because of lofty expectations and unrealistic goals.
I never wanted the D. Now I realize that it is the only way to escape the anger. There was more anger and drama tonight. Petty silly nonsense.
