For the Guy with kids and a WW 6

[hopeful4her]

Got home tonight. Spent some time with my D's. Made some supper. They have been making plans with the wife to go swimming or to Spectrum. I was not invited by wife, so I won't go. Nothing from her all day. Girls asked me, but I told them they could just go.

Spoke to D's about them moving. I asked how they felt about it. D6 motioned a sad face. D11 said sad and excited at the same time. New place. Like living in a hotel. They just love hotels. Sad for me, though. I told them that I want them to be happy, and if they feel something, they have to speak up. D11 says, "Momma said it was going to be an adventure."

D11 then says that D6 told wife that she would try it and if she didn't like it, she would move back with me. D6 corrects her quickly, "Nah ah, momma said that I couldn't. She said that we have to stay with her. She said that kids belong with their momma's."

I have to correct them and tell them that that is not true. Kids DON'T just have to be with the momma's. I told them again that I just want them happy and tell them that momma and I have not really talked much about it, but we are going to split the time between us. You are not going to just live with momma, but you are also going to be living with me here at home. We just don't know the type of schedule yet.

They are ok. I know wife has spoken to them. I don't want to try to work their emotions, either. Have to be careful. I did tell them that if they weren't happy with anything, that they have to speak up. "But you have to be happy too, daddy" says D11. "I don't have anything to be happy about. I just want you guys to be ok. Ok?" Yes, daddy.

Wife comes home. I am in bedroom putting away clothes. I come out and she says hello. I say, "Hey". No other words between us. She tends to puppies outside for a bit and then tells girls to get ready. No invite from roomie. Yet. D6 ask if I'm going. I say, "No, ya'll go have fun."

Later, roomie goes to room, changes and checks her account online. I had passed by to get to closet to change. She asks, "Do you want to go?" I look at her and say, "No, its ok, ya'll can go." She say, "We can go?" I kind of ignore her.

I WANTED to tell her that considering how she acted towards me yesterday, I thought it best to keep my distance. She didn't really want me to go anyway, did she. I decided not to say anything.

She goes to bathroom, comes out and finds girls fighting. Somebody has something that belongs to the other. The one it belongs to didn't want it until the other one wanted it.

As usual.

D6 crying. D11 mad. Wife announces that they don't have to go if they keep fighting. I go consol D6. D11 goes outside in a huff. D6 still crying that she is going to get even with D11. I am consoling and telling her not to cry. Going out door, wife gives me a quick glance and says they'll be back. She has that look. Can't explain it. Sarcastic? The "I know you just want sympathy" look? The "fine, stay home" look?

Have you ever seen a movie that has a Latina woman say, "Oh no you di int?" and then they step back and fold their arms. Their mouth in a crooked pucker? Kind of like that.

I say Ok.

Will see what kind of conversation I initiate tonight. IF I do. I want to mention the change of attitude from Tuesday's hug night to yesterday's coldness. Why? And let her know that last night, with her squirming, she made me feel like she thought she was cheating on OM or something. Maybe bring up the part time parent thing. I still want to ask her what scares her. What she's afraid of. Why she needs to put up a wall with me. Protect herself from what?

Could I really make things worse? Doesn't feel like it.