Karen, I could have fought and paid no alimony because of the A. I CHOSE to pay alimony for kid time. That is how I got her from a 80/20 custody split to a 50/50. I bought custody with alimony. She knew that she could lose it all with the A coming out. In seems silly but I stand behind my decision. I just wish that I could afford to get sole custody. She wanted $4,000/Month for that.
I think some people instead of being angry at themselves find it easier to be angry at others. I totally understand your decision re: the alimony; just horrible that a mom would basically use her children like that for money. I'm glad you at least got 50/50. I wonder if in time you will wind up with more custody if she believes there is no more money to be made or something. Karen
