"nothing has been split...papers are filed, i asked for everything i paid for with my inheritance"
So at some point you will have to figure out who gets what. That's good. I don't recommend any drastic changes to anything you two own. So there is another vote for "fixing" the pool.
"how much time to let him decompress....i feel he may need some decompression time...not much 2 week rule is not in effect here...but some."
If you were living together.. maybe a day or so. Really it is ok to just kinda sit and think right now.. I don't know that stopping the communication was a good or bad thing. I think now.. if we get the pool stuff straight.. we can get back on track.
"if he said it once, he said it fifty times...he and i will never be...but he didn't come out and say, stop texting, stop calling...leave me the hell alone....what do you think?"
I think it is just a bit of lashing out.
I have a question. Did you ever sneak out of the house when you were a kid?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
