Oh yes I know exactly what you mean. My hubby likes to supress supress supress things till they erupt. He even told me in the begining of all of this that he was going to surpress his feeling for me. I am not sure why he said that but it was a few sentences after " I love you" "I dont want a D but I need a break." I told him that supressing it was not a good idea because look at where he was at that moment. He was just quiet. This is still before anyone else was around.
My hubby had a very very hard life and I think that is why this came early for him. I noticed a lot of the people who have this crisis had a very rough upbringing. I only know a fraction of what happepned and its so hard to think about. I dont think that when he shared with me I was as compassionate as I should have been, I know better now though. I had a great childhood. My hubby calls me a Cosby kid. I wish I could replace what he went through with something better. But I can't all I can do is keep praying for him.
One thing he will admit is that I am the only person who has ever spoiled him. I have always tried to get him whatever it was he wanted. I know now though it was not the material things he cherished, it was the thought that I did that for him that he cherished.
I think if you continue to show kindess and dont bring up any R discussion for however long it takes. Things are going to keep getting better for you. Its been a year and my H still has not had a R convo with me. He did tell his brother though that he loves me in Feb. So I am just going to keep praying that God gives him the strength to tell me and talk to me.
