toruble on the the lake erie shore...#4!

[Neilh23]

i'm not entirely sure where to start. I really want the whole puzzle myself before i start hinting at things. Some pretty big revelations that, for lack of a better term, explain many of my behaviors..... and her reactions to them. It's really cyclical too. Upsetting to me because i hurt the woman i love more than anything...and didn't even realize i was.

but things are ok. i think i might've gone a bit too fast.. LOL... the kids colored pix for her today (i gave her a coffee yesterday, and we've exchanged text pix of the kids the last two days)....i don't want to push her away again. She hasn't really talked too much about things. I've validated and listened more intently when talking with her.
Did a little words of affirmation with her...fit in with the conversation...think it went over ok. She was like "yeah right okay" in her "you're nutso whatever dude" voice. I might back off a little..don't want to do too much too soon. will think some more.

really looking for some ways to tell my W some of the things i've figured out to not make it sound self-centered and like i'm excusing the behavior....WAW's? little help? :-)