Why is she so angry? Has she always had a temper or is this more something that has come out with D? I wish you could have gotten sole custody (not to keep her from the kids, but to have more control over when they visit with her, and the amount of time... based on what's best for them...).

Or even an 80/20 on your end. (I personally think it's best for kids to have a "home" rather then being at "mom's house, or "dad's house").

It sounds like it will be all over soon. How are you feeling? Aside from her anger making this easier for you to detach, how are YOU?

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.