Hi sweetie~
Sorry I couldnt post it has been a little craaaaaaaaay -z over here with my H business and all...



So anyway I skimmed your last posts and all is not lost but yes you must calm down...
Take a deep breath and another and know you are going to be ok.

Re-read DR if need be and start a JOurnal~
When I have time in my thread I am going to post my thoughts from when I was seperated from my H and I thought only a Miracle would bring him back...... from my journal.


Example....

In 2 weeks my H will _______________________.
In 2 weeks I will _______________.
And if what you are doing takes you away from your goal stop it and change.
Do a lot of 180s....
Look good even though you may feel like sh*t...
Learn to bite your lip...
When all is said and done it is all about them....

Espescially if he needs validation...
There is a fine line ... you have to give love while being detached.... and you cannot look like you are just kissing his a**.... it wont feel real...

And it takes a month of hard work to repair every year that the Marriage was not good.

(For me it took almost 2 years to be honest.....)


Read DR and highlight what you need to do immediately.
Take this very seriously and at the same time have fun with him.
Never give up.
Come here and vent often
If what I am about to do will take me away from my goal...dont do it...
Really take a good look at you and what you need to fine tune...
Dont be a doormat and also do not be a Mad Woman...
Leave anger out of this it will get you nowhere...
Be the strength he needs now and be gentle with him too...
Take care of you and always try to shine even when inside it seems like there is no hope.
READ also Passionate Marrige and The five love langauges....
JOurnal here everyday and be honest about your struggle.

Do not "blame" him for x , y or z... roll up your sleeves and do your best to be the best you , you can possibly be and it will change I promise.....


I ~ cant promise he will stay but I do promise you will be a better Woman in the end whether he stays or he goes....
I am the strongest I have ever been... by looking at my self and changing , really changing.... I am the best Woman I can be now.
Really and truly.


I used to think of my hubby like a wounded bird... his wing was broken and until it "healed" I had to give him TLC~

and see this is where it gets tricky... if you give toooooooooo much you look like a sap... if you give to little they think you dont care..
find what works.....

I hope you could get something out of this my thoughts for you are all over the place....


Also like someone wise here onve told me...

You can take all the time later of this doesnt work to contemplate they why it didnt work... but for now work on changing this ,focus on saving this Marriage.

She said it way beter than me..

I am going to try to look for it and post it on A BIT!

Also please look at my OLD THREADS...

I got EXCELLENT advice from other posters.... stellar in fact.

Take care and please keep in touch...! ;\)
YOU~ can do this I have faith in you.....
God bless, ~Ali