I was thinking about this further and I have to ask smartcookie. If you found out your husband was having an affair, even if it was a gay affair, would you ask if you could make it a threesome?
Nope, it's not my fantasy to be with H & a gay man. I do believe a lot of men are okay being with two women, even if one is their W.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
